Self of Parts + Self Leadership

A deep dive into Servant leadership

Friday, April 11 • 11 am - 12:30 pm CST • $80

A 90-minute Workshop on Zoom

No IFS experience necessary! Nothing needed except you!

This class is for everyone — beginner to advanced!

You do NOT need IFS training to join in! This will be a 45 minute teaching about the concepts of the Self of parts, Servant leadership, the difference between coaching and therapy, and much more!

Workshop structure:

Introductions

Go inside/ Journal
We will begin as all IFS gatherings do, by going inside to connect to ourselves and center. Feel free to journal during this time if you prefer.

IFS + Servant Leadership Video — I will show the video talk from the recent IFS Summit I was featured in. It will be a “Watch Party” where we watch the video, and then I will be available after for Q & A immediately afterwards.

The main teaching in the class will be watching my talk about Servant leadership, the Self of parts, and so much more! It features embodied interviews with a manager and firefighter about the issues.

In this eye-opening video, Melissa sheds light on the fascinating differences between IFS coaching and therapy, bringing you closer to understanding your inner orchestra. 

Ever felt like your internal world was a bit like "Lord of the Flies”? 

Melissa uses the compelling metaphor of an orchestra without a conductor to describe the chaotic inner dynamics many face before embracing IFS therapy.

She doesn't just stop at theory; Melissa shares personal insights and transformative ideas on how to lead your internal parts harmoniously, making the case for developing a Self that conducts your inner musicians with grace. 

Whether you're a seasoned IFS participant or new to the concept, this video promises to deepen your understanding of self and parts, pushing the boundaries of personal growth and optimal functioning. Get ready to explore how you can turn your inner chaos into a symphony of self-awareness and empowerment!

Q & A
After that, we’ll have an extended Q & A that I will videotape for future reference and learning. I’ll answer any questions and we will continue exploring these very exciting, cutting-edge IFS

Closing
After that, we’ll close with a word or phrase we’re taking with us.

IFS Coaching vs Therapy

  • Melissa Sandfort, an experienced IFS certified practitioner since 2010, introduces the concept of IFS and distinguishes between IFS coaching and IFS therapy. She explores how both practices differ, primarily in their approach to conceptualizing the Self and parts within the system.

Orchestra Metaphor

  • Melissa uses the metaphor of an orchestra to explain the internal system. In this metaphor, the Self is likened to a conductor and the various emotional and psychological parts are the musicians. She discusses how, in many cases, individuals are not aware of the conductor's presence, leading to chaos--similar to an orchestra playing without a conductor.

Role of the Conductor in Therapy

  • In therapy, the goal is to introduce and establish the self as the conductor to bring harmony and order to the inner parts. This process involves negotiating with parts that have taken on extreme roles (like a musician playing too loudly all the time), helping them to trust the conductor and take on more balanced roles.

Differentiation Between Parts and Self

  • A significant portion of the video addresses how individuals can begin to recognize and differentiate between their parts and their overarching Self. This recognition is crucial in moving parts from dysfunctional to functional roles within the internal system.

Development of Self-led Parts

  • Melissa discusses the potential in IFS coaching to not only manage but optimize one’s inner world by developing Self-led parts. These are parts that can perform daily tasks and functions with a high degree of autonomy and effectiveness, such as managing schedules or making decisions.

Empowering Self-led Parts

  • The concept of empowering Self-led parts to take on more leadership within the system is explored. Melissa presents a scenario involving "Green," a manager part of her system, illustrating how she coaches this part to transform its approach from commanding to coaching, thereby fostering a more supportive internal environment.

Servant Leadership Model

  • She introduces a servant leadership model within IFS coaching, where the Self acts not just as a leader but as a facilitator that empowers parts to develop their own Self-energy, enhancing the overall functionality and harmony of the system.

Practical Application and Examples

  • Throughout the video, Melissa provides personal anecdotes and practical examples of how she has applied these IFS principles in her own life and in her practice, demonstrating the profound impact of recognizing and nurturing the relationship between the Self and its parts.

Conclusion

  • The video concludes with Melissa advocating for a deeper exploration of IFS for individuals interested in personal growth and optimal functioning. She emphasizes the adaptability and transformative potential of IFS! 

This video serves as both an introduction and a deep dive into the practical applications of IFS, offering insights that are valuable for both newcomers and those who have IFS experience!