Policies
Time
I have no set length of time for meetings, but generally begin with an hour session. We’ll discuss a time frame in advance, allowing wiggle room for longer time if need be. You are “completely typical in that you are unique and what you need is unique.”
Couples may choose to begin with a longer session (75 or 90 minutes).
If you want extra time, we can usually extend our session to make sure the inner work that wants to happen is able to. Extra time is simply prorated at our usual rate.
Scheduling
In order to allow for coincidences, surprise happenings, the fluctuations of health, and all other human events, if we have scheduled a meeting, but it is not the right time for it, let me know as soon as you can and we will reschedule, no problem! No harm, no foul, no cancellation fee.
To make this policy easier for me, please make sure to both 1) call OR text 847-804-3200 and 2) e-mail (in case some form of technology fails).
As much as possible I trust you’ll give me a day’s notice, or more, if you can. However, the entire purpose of coaching is to honor yourself. If you wake up feeling off and know in your bones it’s the wrong day to do inner work, please honor that. When you honor you, you honor me. Showing up physically, but not mentally, doesn’t honor either of us.
Privacy
I store all information electronically, identified only by initials. No information will be sold or otherwise disclosed.
Problems
If I ever say or do something that is upsetting or doesn’t feel right, please let me know. In IFS there is a saying, “When there is interpersonal conflict, it is usually a part. The trick is finding out if it is my part or your part.” I will never promise to be perfect. I only promise to do my best to take responsibility for my parts. When they show up in imperfect ways, I promise to make my best effort to acknowledge the truth and apologize without excuses.
Contact between Sessions
Casual email contact—yes!
I’m open to answering short questions or reading email updates about how things are unfolding between sessions.
I welcome receiving occasional insights and journaling.
Emergency Questions or Sessions
For more extended or pressing questions or issues, I do my best to make time available.
My usual rates for a phone session or emailing/texting back and forth apply.
Casual phone contact—no
I enjoy offering sessions by phone. They are one of my main methods of coaching, so if phone sessions work for you, great!
However, I do not offer casual phone contact between sessions.
If you have an issue you’d like to talk about on the phone, my usual rates apply, and can be pro-rated for the time we talk. I understand that sometimes a twenty minute talk can be helpful, and do my best to be available for phone sessions outside of our regularly scheduled sessions when needed.
Running Late
If you're running late, you get a 'free pass' the first time. After that, despite starting later, I may still have to end on time. Thanks for understanding!
Forms of Payment
Zelle / Chase — 847-804-3200 Zelle link
Venmo — 847-804-3200 https://venmo.com/u/Melissa-Sandfort
Paypal — melissatutor@mac.com or paypal.me/sandfort
check made out to Melissa Sandfort
credit card (+ 2.75% fee if the card can be swiped, or 3.5% fee if entered manually)
cash in person
Please use whatever form of payment is best for you, and honor what is best for me by sending it on the same day as our session!
Keeping track and sending out reminders adds accounting tasks I prefer not to spend time on,
so please support me in having less paperwork and more joy! Thanks!